What Inner Truth archetype are you? By doing the work, you can heal your inner pain.
Anything I find aligning with my path I must pass on, so I had to share holistic psychologist Dr Nicole Lepera’s book on my blog. If you want to heal your past and create your authentic life, this could be the book for you. How to do the work
The dynamics of our relationships in adulthood can be traced back to our primary caregivers.
Mary Ainsworth identified 4 attachment styles:
Secure
Anxious Resistance
Avoidant
Disorganised Disoriented (Rarest) usually found on the ACES
Many of us will relate to more than one of the 7 common personality Archetype’s that describe our inner child states.
They are so helpful to know, so we can become aware to do the work.
The caretaker whose self-worth comes from taking care of others typically comes from co-dependent dynamics and gains a sense of identity and self-worth through neglecting their own needs, and believes that the only way to receive love is to cater to others and ignore their own needs.
The over achiever, feels seen, heard and valued through success and achievement, uses external validation as a way to cope with low self-worth and believes that the only way to receive love is through achievements.
The under – achiever keeps themselves small, unseen and beneath their potential due to fear of criticism or shame about failure and takes themselves out of the emotional game before it is even played and believes the only way to receive love is to stay invisible.
The rescuer/protector veraciously attempts to rescue those around them in an attempt to heal from their own vulnerability, especially in childhood, views others as helpless, incapable and dependant and derives their love and self-worth from being in a position of power and believes that the only way to receive love is to help others by focusing on their wants and needs and helping them solve their problems.
The life of the party, this is the always happy, cheerful comedic person who never shows pain, weakness or vulnerability, it’s likely that this inner child was shamed for their emotional state and believes that the only way to feel OK and to receive love is to make sure that everyone around them is happy.
The YES person drops everything and neglects all needs in the service of others and was likely to model self-sacrifice in childhood, engaged in deep co-dependency patterns much as the caretaker did and believes that the only way to receive love is to be both good and selfless.
The hero worshipper, needs to have a person or guru to follow likely emerged from an inner child wound made by a caretaker who was received as a super human without faults and believes that the only way to receive love is to reject their own needs and desires and view others as a model to learn how to live
If you see yourself in any of the 7 or even a few in the book How to do the work covers it all. Nicole teaches us that we are the only ones who can do the work and tells us exactly how to do it. She has a supportive Instagram page and also an informative podcast too.
Other Suggested Further Readings
THE CONSCIOUS SELF
Hawk, Red. Self Observation: The Awakening of Consciences: An Owner’s Manual. Hohm Press, 2009.
Singer, Michael A. The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself. New Harbinger Publications, 2007.
THE NEW THEORY OF TRAUMA AND TRAUMA BODY
DeGruy, Joy. Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome: America’s Legacy of Enduring In- jury and Healing. Joy DeGruy Publications, 2005.
Stanley, Elizabeth A. Widen the Window: Training Your Brain and Body to Thrive During Stress and Recover from Trauma. Avery, 2019.
van der Kolk, Bessel. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind , and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books, 2015.
Wolynn, Mark. It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle. Penguin Life, 2017.
MIND- BODY HEALING PRACTISES
Article by Gemma
Published 29 Aug 2022